Editing: Hazel Klier
Everything happens for a reason.
I used to work at Istanbul Ataturk airport for 6 years. I loved my job and was very successful within the company. Unfortunately, at one point I faced an injustice, which destroyed my motivation and made me lose my respect for my job, and ultimately led me to resign. At the time, I wished that this negative experience would lead to a positive change in my life.
Here we are! I am in the United States, where I dreamed to one day be for years. It is not easy to encourage yourself to leave everything you know behind you, but I eventually did it because losing my motivation caused me to re-evaluate different opportunities in my life. Now, I am able to be myself without worrying about what people think of me. Eventually this led to a lifelong wish to come true, and now my life is taking a turn for the better. If everything had gone well at my previous job in Turkey, I would not have come to the US. It was the biggest learning experience when I realized that sometimes you have to be patient and observe the consequences first.
Generally, we as humans are very impatient and react very quickly. I know it is not easy to look from different perspectives when your emotions are so intense, but gaining some new epiphany can sometimes take days, weeks, months even years. Patience is the key word here. Things change in our lives and later we say “Oh if it didn’t happen to me 6 months ago I wouldn’t be here today. For example, in my 5th month in the US, I was working at a carpet store where the owner and I had differences of opinions on many different things and he eventually let me go. I was unemployed for a month, and of course scared to death what if I cannot find another one? I visited several Turkish Restaurants in New York on a very cold winter day. I had no experience in the industry, but it was my best and only option at that point. To be honest, I never thought I would work at a restaurant. It is not that I think it is beneath me, it is because I have never carried more than one plate in my entire life. The saying goes: “If you want to have something you have never had, you have got to do something you have never done”. I knew at that point I was ready for anything.
I was called for training from one of the restaurants I applied to. I learned how to carry plates and everything else that was required for me to be hired. After gaining the fundamental principles of the job, and combining them with my human affairs skills, I managed to get to where I am today; working at a very nice, upscale Bar/Restaurant in Midtown.
Losing my job damaged my courage, but today I am earning almost double what I was earning before, and have a valid profession in the US. (Servers and bartenders earn more money than a teacher in New York)
I would always joke with my friends that my life closely resembled the movie The Butterfly Effect but later realized the sentiment from the movie applies to each and every living being on this earth. Everything we say, every action we take, or every decision we make can result in huge consequences, good or bad. I am sure at some point all of us have seen the connections between the smallest of events that make big changes in our lives. I know I have…